BECOME LOVE

The secret of life 

Is nothing but love 

Where do I look for love ? 

Whom do I ask for love ?

Whom do I beg for love ? 

Where do I find love ? 

God whispered 

My dear child 

You don't look for love 

You don't ask for love 

You don't beg for love 

You don't find love 

You have to 

Become love 

You have to 

Be love 

Become love ? 

O dear God 

How do I 

Become love ? 

Don't look for 

Feeling love 

Feelings change 

Feeling love 

Can fade any day 

Become  love 

Love by choice 

Choose to become 

A loving person 

Choose to think and 

Act with love 

Choose love ? 

O dear God 

How do I 

Choose love ? 

To choose love

My dear child 

Love yourself first 

Fill yourself with love 

For what you 

Don't have for self 

You cannot share 

Remember 

You are a beautiful soul 

Give love to the 

Soul in you 

Your beautiful soul 

Is  crying  for love 

Like a little baby 

O God 

Tell me more

My child 

Be fully present

Open the energy of the soul 

Let love energy flow 

Become love as a whole 

Give your 

Time and attention 

Are you  racing in life 

With a cursory glance 

Don't take that chance 

Pause for a moment 

Be  fully present 

To give and receive

Kind words and deeds 

Hugs and smiles 

See the best in others 

Not the worst 

Appreciate their best 

Accept their worst 

Understand them first 

Do your best 

Show grace 

Show compassion

Show good intentions 

Becoming love 

Has no short cuts 

Love my dear child 

Is never taken for granted 

It has to be reinvented 

Again and again 

Every day every moment 

Love is a miracle 

Pivotal and adorable 

You my child 

Are Gods miracle 

A pure loving soul 

My child ,

Stop looking for love 

Become  love. 

Stop asking for love 

Become  love. 

Stop begging for love 

Become  love.

Become the source of love energy 

Let your love energy overflow 

To touch others ....

Let your love energy overflow 

To  draw others to you ...

Become love and celebrate 

Celebrate love in your life 

Become love  my child 

For when you become love 

You will 

Be love 

That my child 

Is the secret of life 

Pushpa Chaturvedi 

LOVE AND GOD MOTHER AND CHILD

LOVE AND GOD  MOTHER AND CHILD

I CAN SEE LOVE MOTHER 

Where can you see love my child ? 

I see love in your eyes mother 

I feel love in your big  warm hugs 

I hear love in your honey sweet voice 

I smell love in your  enchanting breath

Come here my child 

Let us bathe in the glory of love  

In all Gods creations love abides 

Let us see ,feel ,hear and smell love ....

I see love in the blossoming wild rose 

I feel love as the  sun rays come close 

I hear love in birds chirping with mirth 

I smell love in the wet Mother Earth 

I see love in the earth kissing the sky 

I feel love touching the sea waves mingling by 

I hear love in the sea's roaring beseech 

I smell love in drifting sand  on the beach 

I see love in branches embracing on the tree top

I feel love touching the  pearly white  rain drops 

I hear love whispers of swaying paddy crops 

I smell love in the feathers that birds drop 

I CAN SEE GOD MOTHER 

Where can you see God my child ?

I see God in you mother 

I feel God when you hold me tight 

I hear God when you sing even out of sight 

I smell God when you kiss me day and night .

Come here my child 

Let us see God in all that is around 

In all HiS creations God abides 

Let us see ,feel ,hear and smell God abound 

I see God In the  sun smiling bright

I feel God soaking sun rays in my prayer  

I hear  God In the  silence  of the night

 I smell  God In the stillness of the air 

I see God In the radiant colors of the rainbow 

I feel God In the  morning mist that blows 

I hear  God In the buzzing of the  busy bees 

i smell God In the  sweet cold fresh breeze 

I see God In the  lofty mountains touching the sky 

I feel God In the  water that flows in rivers rolling by 

I hear God In the pitter patter of the rainy showers 

I smell God In the fragrance of the  beautiful flowers 

I see God In the kind old man bent on his knees

I feel God in the butterfly perching still on my nose 

I hear God In the dogs  barking at the door 

I smell God in my cat snuggling close 

SO DEAR MOTHER 

Is Love and God here in you and me 

Is Love and God everywhere we see 

Yes my dear child 

Can you see all that i see 

I see love and  God in you my child 

You are my smiling sun 

You are my laughing moon 

You are my twinkling star 

You are in all my dreams 

You are in everything i see 

You are Gods precious gift to me 

FUN LAUGHTER HEALTH AND HAPPINESS ARE CONNECTED

FUN  LAUGHTER HEALTH AND HAPPINESS ARE CONNECTED 

Are you waiting for a special occasion to enjoy life and have fun and laughter ?  If you are then  you are making a  gross mistake  and loosing out  a lot in life .Having fun and laughter in your daily life  in the present moment makes you more creative ,productive ,loving ,happy and accepting and all this contributes to increasing self awareness, internal peace and overall health .

Having fun means you do what you enjoy doing  keeping in mind that it has the capability to enhance your physical ,mental and spiritual health .Fun which gives you inner happiness that is fun which your soul enjoys is what helps  you to grow holistically .Only when we establish happiness within ourselves we can create a better self and a better world .

Don't take  life too seriously you could harm your health. Being spiritual does not mean being serious .In fact when you enjoy  what  you are doing you get connected  more to your true self ,you get more  tuned to your inner being .....for your inner being your soul is basically a happy  peace loving kind soul and by nurturing your soul you cultivate true inner happiness .

Some people think it's selfish and irresponsible to have fun with so much of misery around .But in fact  having fun  de stresses you ,relaxes you and keeps you mentally and physically healthy .It makes you capable of giving love ,compassion and happiness to others .

Mental health requires soul happiness .Only when you feel healthy,happy ,okay and  good  inside you can be of help to others and a useful member of the society .If you are stressed  or depressed you can neither  be of help to others  nor can you make yourself or others happy.

As we grow old we forget to have fun ,we no  longer do what we were enjoying earlier thinking it is beyond our age .Thats the commonest cause of depression while aging . We succumb to societal pressures  with the belief that fun loving activities are only for the youngsters and most fear that their peer group  and the youngsters may not look upon it kindly . 

But in reality what I have experienced is  different .Most would love to  celebrate life  as they did in their young days but feel hesitant to do so and thus loose out on creating fun loving happy moments of life .

The heart of the old beats  with same rate and rhythm as the heart of the young. "We don't stop playing because we grow old;we grow old because we stop playing " George  Bernard Shaw.

Sharing some of my musings of my happy fun loving soul who loves and enjoys nature 

 AM A HAPPY PEACEFUL KIND FUN LOVING SOUL 

I am a happy peaceful kind fun loving  soul 

I wonder why I always love laugh and  smile ,

I hear  my friends hellos  even from over a mile ,

I see wisdom confidence ,faith and strength coming my way ,

I want to be compassionate ,trustworthy and never go astray .

I am a happy peaceful  kind  fun loving soul 

I wonder why I jump with joy and bliss everyday 

I hear  Gods sweet angels sing and pray 

I see the innocent kids happily dancing away ,

I want to also join them to sing ,dance and play , 

I am a happy peaceful  kind  fun loving soul 

I wonder  why the sun shines daily so very bright ,

I hear the devoted priests chanting with all their might ,

I see  the humble sun rays warming all creations 

I want to also live with humility and warm loving sensation 

I am a happy peaceful kind fun  loving soul 

I wonder  who the beautiful  moon is wooing ,

I hear the stars  around  vying and cooing ,

I see the clouds gliding  gracefully with charm 

I want to  hug them all with my wide open arms.

I am a happy peaceful kind  fun loving  soul 

I wonder from where the vast mysterious sea comes from,

I hear the  myriad lofty sea waves roar and strum 

I see far  far away the sea kissing the sky ,

I want to fearlessly sail on waves riding high ,

I am a happy peaceful  kind  fun loving soul 

I wonder how this majestic tree was formed from a tiny seed 

I hear the birds chirping merrily together and flying in great speed 

I see millions of ants marching in rows without stampede 

I want to  also live with love and kindness without ego and greed .

I am a happy peaceful kind fun loving soul 

I wonder when I will unite to become one with the Divine

I hear a whispering soothing sound in my hearts mind 

I see HIS gracious Hallo around  glowing with a  shine 

I want to feel HIS Divine embrace and get entwined 

So are you ready to have some fun and nurture your soul  😄😄😄.........

DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT ;which makes you happy ....do share what it could be 

CATCH UP ;with  old friends  or even make new friends ..along with having fun and laughter  it helps you practice love ,peace and forgiveness 

LAUGH EVERYDAY ITS LIKE INNER JOGGING  Share some laughing moments  ...

DOES FAMILIARITY BREED CONTEMPT ?

DOES FAMILIARITY BREED CONTEMPT ?

Most of us have heard this often " Familiarity  breeds contempt " Is this belief true ?Is it really familiarity  that breeds contempt or is it the consequences which arise after becoming more intimate ? 

One would think that being more familiar may pave a way for better love and understanding rather then contempt hence I would rather believe that " familiarity should breed liking rather then contempt " For if more exposure  has a hold on developing social relationships then, as we come to know more about others, we should come to like them more.

But unfortunately it is often seen that the more we come closer ,we tend to disregard each other start finding faults ,and ignore all their good  traits which we had earlier appreciated .We  become  judgmental ,demanding and disappointed  for not being given what we think is due to us as per our expectations .These thoughts spring from a feeling of possessiveness which creeps into the relationship .Such beliefs can prove to be harmful for married couples and even for best of friends .It’s better to tear down pride than allow pride to tear down relationships.

However sometimes familiarity does make you aware of  true negative traits so that  you decide to be at a safe distance from the negative energy  

An Aesop's fable ends with the moral derived being : Familiarity breeds contempt

When first the Fox saw the Lion he was terribly frightened, and ran away and hid himself in the wood. Next time he came near the King of Beasts he stopped at a safe distance and watched him pass by. The third time they came near one another the Fox went straight up to the Lion and passed the time with him, asking him how his family were, and when he should have the pleasure of seeing him again; then turning his tail, he parted from the Lion without much ceremony. Moral :  Familiarity breeds contempt

Amongst hindi proverbs which describe this  saying  to the nearest are ....

Door ke dhol suhavane lagte hain  ...The drums sound better at a distance

Ghar  kee murgi  dal  barabar ....Self possessions even when valuable are never valued 

FAMILIARITY : CONTEMPT  OR  LOVE 

Strangers in life's journey come together 

Each unique  and perfect in their own cadre 

Looking forward to bonding with love 

Not knowing how much familiarity is enough 

First impressions are said to usually last 

But alas ! when more is revealed these change fast 

The nearer they come the more closely they see

What looked pretty from far may now look ugly 

Is coming nearer the reason or something else ?

How does intimacy result in this unpleasant digress ?

Emotional closeness and love raises expectations 

Expectations not fulfilled lead to frustrations 

Over time  happiness seems to wither away 

Dishonor and negative energy comes into play 

Differences are neither accepted nor agreed upon 

Good vibrations and feelings appear to have gone 

You don't value each other as much as you should 

You take them for granted feeling they are not that good 

Devaluing each other creates  painful conflicts and contempt 

Valuing relationships needs a constant conscious attempt 

For familiarity to breed  a lasting  loving equation 

Give emotional support and respect in all situations 

Leave ego aside and accept the others position 

Embrace differences as part of a beautiful  relation 

So what do you think ? Does familiarity breed contempt OR love ?  Do some people treat strangers better then their family members ? 

Please share your views .

Pushpa Chaturvedi 

HAPPILY EVER AFTER IS A CHOICE

HAPPILY EVER AFTER IS A CHOICE 

Many years ago  I once joked that if  a renowned newspaper ever wanted me to write my views on happiness in marriage .I’ll always believe in a happily ever after. “Happily ever after is not a fairy tale. It’s a choice.” God gave me this beautiful grace for the time he had destined it for us and I feel truly blessed and grateful .

Looking to marriage to make you happy is a fundamental mistake.It is YOUR OWN HAPPINESS  that you bring into your marriage that makes it so wonderful and beautiful .

Some one very rightly said  " A happy marriage is the union of two  good forgivers " When two imperfect people refuse to give up on each other ,argue less ,care and share more and love more it becomes a perfect marriage. 

Given all the tough times and conflicts  which come hidden in each happy package with some sigh- able melting moments  of  pain and love ,it is love at the end that wins Love crosses over all hurdles and makes you see commonsense .Love is always bestowed as a gift ,freely, willingly, and without expectation.We don't love to be loved ,we love to love.

Remember that happy couples are not couples that don’t fight. Rather they’re couples who fight fair and take responsibility for their  words and actions, no matter how annoyed they may feel inside during those moments but their love spark remains alive and that  is what beautifies the relationship further  for love endures for ever .Those whom you love are those whom you feel you have the right to fight with and the urge to make up with . For " love doesn't just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.”

Remember those days when you  were bickering and crying out your heart due to the happenings of the day but still couldn't  stop thinking of  love for each other all the way  for love conquers all differences .Love makes us do thinks we never thought we were capable of doing....I am sure It has happened with most of us at some bend in life .

Remember all  couples from time to time experience pulls in opposing directions, between what one wants or does and what the other would prefer. They often get upset  with each other but those who are emotionally mature and skill full get over the differences fast .Conflicts often become evident  when emotional tensions rise high Conflicts  however, needn't lead to ugly fights . One needs to cool down and then do the win win over talking  leaving ego aside to find a solution that leaves both feeling good and  being loved .

REMEMBERING THE DAYS WE DIDN'T TALK 

Remembering the days we didn't talk to each other,

I knew you always loved me more then yourself,

Despite that we sometimes fought  amongst ourselves,

With those hot and cold wars life spiced up by itself .

Remembering  the days we didn't talk  to each other,

My sulking at not taking me to my favorite movie,

Despite my pleading "you will like it ,it's really groovy"

You were absorbed in your book ,saying "I am very choosy"

Remembering  the days we didn't talk  to each other,

I was busy preparing for my  conference presentation,

Having no time to cook dinner as per your temptation,

You expressed regrets at marrying me with frustration .

Remembering  the days we didn't talk  to each other,

You forgot to take the children for dinner to the club,

I was busy in the hospital,the boys had ,had no grub,

My busy work schedule ,at times you snubbed.

Remembering  the days we didn't talk  to each other,

The day you scheduled your departmental dinner meeting,

No time for me except a hurried happy birthday greeting,

I cried and cried myself to sleep without even eating !!

Remembering  the days we didn't talk  to each other,

We had made all vacation plans to visit a hill station,

Suddenly plans were cancelled ,you forgo your vacation ,

In the interest of maintaining a good colleague relation .

Remembering  the days we didn't talk  to each other,

Despite all conflicts ,we remained best friends for ever  

We knew we couldn't stay apart long with hot and cold vibes,

Sometimes we even had to use  sweet and loving bribes !!! 

Today ,remembering  all this  brings  a smile on my face.

Something's were so silly , my memory just can't erase .

Happy marriages are made here on earth not in heaven 

With understanding ,accepting and following the vows seven :) 

Its ironical how often such moments increase love and bonding .It is these millions of silly and small moments of  breaking up and making up that create a  love story 

Do you agree that happily ever after is a choice ? 

I am sure each one of you must be having  such moments to share  here where you  must have felt foolish later that it was not worth loosing your cool and loosing your moments of happiness  and love .

Pushpa  Chaturvedi