Settling down on earth together his and hers became ours.
As time passed by their different origins they forgot,
Resulting in many a conflicts and thorny tight spots .
Her helping him with unsolicited advice is what he abhorred ,
His competence he valued and hated it to be underscored.
She shared her upset feelings to get empathy and support ,
Instead he gave his expert advice ,she rejected it with a snort.
She valued love ,communication and sharing relationships,
He valued achieving goals ,solving problems and getting the grips.
She strived to improve his caring with constructive criticism ,
He felt things not broken don't need fixing ,disliked her lyricism .
On being upset he withdrew into himself ,till he got the solution,
And lost awareness of other responsibilities needing his attention,
His ego prevented him form sharing his troubling mind,
She felt neglected , resenting his being aloof and unkind.
She felt neglected , resenting his being aloof and unkind.
On feeling upset she shared her problems with full trust ,
Her ego depended on loving relationships ,and ability to adjust.
Listening to her problems , he assumed she was blaming him,
He quickly become defensive , making the situation more grim.
The Martians only talked to convey or gather information,
The Venusians talked to explore and release their emotional vibration.
Finally ! they realized the innate difference in their thinking,
Gave each other respect ,understanding and a kind ear for listening.
They changed their tone ,used right words to convey their feelings,
Chose to be more sensitive ,understanding and patient in their dealings .
They gradually learnt to release their judgement and blame,
Resulting in a deserving loving relation like a glowing flame .
Foot notes :-
Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently. They almost seem to be from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment.
Understanding these differences helps resolve much of the frustration in dealing with and trying to understand the opposite sex. Misunderstandings and Incorrect expectations can be avoided.
You can relax and cooperate with the differences instead of resisting or trying to change them.
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